Frequently Asked Questions1. A Hysterectomy? What is it?
2. A Hysterectomy? What Kind?
3. Frightened and Anxious?
4. Go to doctor appointment with her?
5. How can the rest of the family and friends help?
6. How to Prepare the Room?
7. Is a Minimally Invasive Hysterectomy Best?
8. Light housework? What is that?
9. No Libido?
10. Post-op bleeding?
11. SEX! When can we get back to normal?
12. Swelly belly? Tender belly?
13. Trouble getting out of bed?
14. What Type of Surgeon for Cancer?
15. When can she cook?
16. Why Does She Need a Second Opinion?
17. Why is my wife not feeling better?
* SEX! When can we get back to normal?
SEX! When can we get back to normal?
It is very important to follow the doctor's orders of NOTHING IN THE VAGINA until the doctor has given the ok (usually 6 weeks post-op). The doctor didn't just make this up to torture you.
While you are waiting for the green light, external stimulation (with clean hands!) is ok - but oral sex is not a good idea as the mouth carries a lot of bacteria and could cause an infection. Your wife may find that it takes a while before she is relaxed enough to reach a climax. She may also find that her climax feels quite different - or that it will take her longer to reach, and that will take a bit of getting used to.
The doctor's ok basically means that everyting is healing properly, and that there is no longer a risk of the surgery site becoming infected. Nonetheless, it is very important to take things easy at first and to be careful. Both of you will probably be feeliing a bit nervous, and for your wife it may be uncomfortable.
Our suggestions would be to make sure you have some extra lubrication (ky-gel or astroglide) handy in case it is needed (side bar about "a little dab will do you?) - and you might both be more comfortable if you find a position in which your wife has control over the situation so it is easier for her to stop if it is too uncomfortable.