Dear John

by troubled tabby

Dear John,

This is my first ever dear John letter. Thank God it is to show you how much I love you. It is long over due, but hopefully it is not too late for you to read this and truly understand what you mean to me.

I had my hysterectomy 3 ½ years ago and not a day goes by that I don’t thank God that you were there to support me through this phase of our lives.

You have been a blessing for me and such a wonderful man to see me through all the ups and downs that the surgery has caused in our lives. I hope you can be an inspiration for the other men that may read this.

From the very first day I heard that a hysterectomy was something that may help my pain, you were there for me. You went to the doctors appointment and spoke with the doctor. You did research and asked questions from other women you knew that went through this.

You stayed with me the night before my surgery even though you had to call off work simply because you knew I was nervous. When I woke up from the surgery, your face was the first thing I saw. What a wonderful feeling that was…to see the man I loved standing there right beside me.

I do remember you brought me the wrong nightgown to the hospital to wear home, but when I started to cry about it, you didn’t laugh at me. You just reassured me that this was my first mood swing and everything would be OK.

When I needed help in the shower you were there. When I needed help relieving the gas pain, you went to the pharmacy and talked with the pharmacist and you even helped me with the treatment.

You did laundry, you cooked for the family, you vacumned, you drove the kids around…you did it all Babe!!! You were wonderful.

When I started having hormonal problems which any man would have packed up and left….you stayed. You not only stayed, you did research and talked to doctors and went on countless doctors appointments with me. You talked to everyone you knew and you helped me know that I was not crazy ….just hormonal. You called off work just to stay with me and take me to the doctors. You went to countless ER visits because we didn’t know what was wrong. You were the one that found the ever so wonderful progesterone cream and made me order it. You were the one that talked to my doctor and told him your concerns and made the appointment.

You were under so much stress, yet you were always there for me. I know that there were times you wanted to call it quits. I know I drove you crazy with my crying spells and anxiety/depression and everything else that went with my hormonal challenges. I remember sitting at the kitchen table, crying for hours. You sat right there and just let me go on and on. I’m sure you wanted to just walk out and not have to deal with everything. Your love for me has been proven through all this and I know more than ever that we will make it through anything life has to offer us.

It has been 3 ½ years since my surgery and you still drive me to my hormone doctor (which is an hour away) You are still very much involved with making sure I am healthy and happy. You don’t complain (too much) when I spend hours on the computer trying to give back support to other women on Hystersisters.

I don’t know how to let you know that my love for you will always be there. You are awesome!!!! You are wonderful!!!! You are the LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!!!

We have been together for almost 20 years and each and everyday, I am thankful that I have been blessed with you as my husband. Don’t ever forget that Babe….I have loved you since the first time I laid eyes on you. (Remember I picked you up) I have loved you every minute since I met you , and I will always love you.

I hope you are able to read this and know how much you mean to me.

I couldn’t have done it without you. I look so forward to growing old with you.