* I'm scared!

My wife is having a TAH (total abdominal hysterectomy) in about 2 weeks. She has a history of endometriosis and hyperplasia and had abnormal cell growth in the past. The doc said cancer couldn't be ruled out, so she decided to go with surgery. She also has pcos, so childbirth is not a factor. How can I help her? What is going to happen before and after surgery? I know her needs are what is important here and that I have to be strong for her but at the same time I'm afraid she may be in more serious condition and that I may lose her. PLEASE HELP.

From the Hyster Sisters:

The main thing is to be there for her. Let her lean on you, because as stressed as you are, she is feeling it more. Try to accompany her to her Pre-Op/Pre-Admission appointment. You may have questions to ask and this will be a good time to ask them.

Before the surgery she'll probably be very worried, but may not tell you this. She'll more than likely want to clean the house from top to bottom, as this may help to keep her mind off the surgery and will assure her that things will be ready for her return home.

It's a good idea if you can stay with her at the hospital. It may be comforting to her knowing that you are there.

When she comes home, make sure she gets her meds on time. It's important to keep ahead of the pain. Also, make sure she has the things she needs at arm's length...telephone, TV remote, water, etc.

Help her to the bathroom and stay with her for her first few showers. When she feels a little better, you can take short walks with her.

One plus is that her surgery and recovery can be a good time for you to show her just how much you love her. You may find that this will bring the two of you closer together.